Khaled Naser

By Brian Tracy

Appreciate People For Everything They Do

There are three keys to getting the best out of others, and the first of these
is appreciation. Every time you thank another person, you cause that person to
like themselves better. You raise their self-esteem and improve their
self-image. You cause them to feel more important. You make them feel that what
they did was valuable and worthwhile. You empower them.

Build Your Own Self-Esteem
And the wonderful thing about thanking other people is that, every time you say
the words “thank you,� you like yourself better as well. You feel better inside.
You feel happier and more content with yourself and life. You feel more fully
integrated and positive about what you are doing. When you develop an attitude
of gratitude that flows forth from you in all of your interactions with others,
you will be amazed at how popular you will become and how eager others will be
to help you in whatever you are doing.

There are three keys to getting the best out of others, and the first of these
is appreciation. Every time you thank another person, you cause that person to
like themselves better. You raise their self-esteem and improve their
self-image. You cause them to feel more important. You make them feel that what
they did was valuable and worthwhile. You empower them.And the wonderful thing
about thanking other people is that, every time you say the words “thank you,�
you like yourself better as well. You feel better inside. You feel happier and
more content with yourself and life. You feel more fully integrated and positive
about what you are doing. When you develop an attitude of gratitude that flows
forth from you in all of your interactions with others, you will be amazed at
how popular you will become and how eager others will be to help you in whatever
you are doing.

Praise and Approve Others Continually
The second way to make people feel important, to raise their self-esteem and
give them a sense of power and energy, is by the generous use of praise and
approval. Psychological tests show that, when children are praised by the people
that they look up to, their energy levels rise, their heart rates and
respiratory rates increase and they feel happier about themselves overall.

Make People Feel Important
Perhaps the most valuable lesson in Ken Blanchard’s book The One Minute Manager
is his recommendation to be giving “one-minute praising� at every opportunity.
If you go around your home and through your social relationships praising and
giving genuine and honest approval to people for their accomplishments, large
and small, you will be amazed at how much more people like you and how much more
willing they are to help you achieve your goals.

Practice the Law of Reciprocity
There is a psychological law of reciprocity that says, “If you make me feel
good about myself, I will find a way to make you feel good about yourself.� In
other words, people will always look for ways to reciprocate your kindnesses
toward them. When you look for every opportunity to do and say things that make
other people feel good about themselves, you will be astonished at not only how
good you feel, but at the wonderful things that begin to happen all around you.

Pay Attention When They Talk
The third way to empower others, to build their self-esteem and make them
feel important is simply to pay close attention to them when they talk. The
great majority of people are so busy trying to be heard that they become
impatient when others are talking. But this is not for you. Remember, the most
important single activity that takes place over time is listening intently to
the other person when he or she is talking and expressing himself or herself.

Take Every Opportunity to Build People Up
Again, the three general rules for empowering the people around you, which
apply to everyone you meet, are appreciation, approval, and attention. Voice
your thanks and gratitude to others on every occasion. Praise them for every
accomplishment. And pay close attention to them when they talk and want to
interact with you. These three behaviors alone will make you a master of human
interaction and will greatly empower the people around you.

Action Exercises:

Now, here are two things you can do immediately to put these ideas into action.

First, make people feel important. Look for ways to express praise and approval
at every opportunity.

Second, practice the special art of listening to people when they want to talk.
It makes people feel special and appreciated.
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Brian Tracy is one of the world’s leading authorities on personal and business
success. His fast-moving talks and seminars are loaded with powerful, proven
ideas and strategies that you can apply immediately to get better results in
every area. Visit the Brian Tracy web site.